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It can be hard to change the way you feel about your body. Don’t give up. We get proud by practising!

How does body image impact us?

Everyone has things they like and don't like about their body.

No one is perfect, but we see “perfect bodies” in magazines, the news, TV shows, ads, and movies. Even worse, bodies that look different are often shown as ugly or embarrassing.

The truth is:

  • All bodies are beautiful
  • All bodies are allowed to take up space.

We don't hear this truth very often. It can have a big impact on our mental and physical health.

The more unhappy a person feels about their body, the more likely they are to:

  • Not enjoy life
  • Feel upset
  • Eat unhealthy food
  • Have an eating disorder. A person with an eating disorder might eat too much or too little. It hurts their health. They might also feel sad and alone. If you think you have an eating disorder, it's important to get help. Please talk to a GP or counsellor.

Who is at risk of feeling bad about their body?

Poor body image affects people of all ages, genders, sexualities, shapes and sizes. Young women, gender-diverse, and LGBTQIA+ people often feel bad about their bodies.

Disabled bodies are rarely shown on online and on TV. It makes it hard for people with disabilities to feel good about their bodies.

We might worry about our weight, shape, skin, hair, differences, and how the world sees us. It can cause problems like:

  • Depression, which is when someone often feels sad or flat.
  • Anxiety, which is when someone often worries or feels nervous.
  • Low self-esteem, which is when someone often feels bad about themselves.

Other things that can make someone feel bad about their body include:

  • Going through big changes like puberty, pregnancy and menopause.
  • Having poor mental health.
  • Being teased or bullied.

You can learn more on The Butterfly Foundation website (external link). 

How can we feel better about our bodies?

Body positivity is the idea that everyone deserves to feel good about their body. That means you:

  • Like your body even if it doesn't look like the bodies you see online and on TV.
  • Feel confident.
  • Love your body and yourself.
  • Accept the size, shape and abilities of your body.

Remember, the bodies you see online and on TV are often edited. They may have used makeup and lighting. In real life, most people don't look like models or actors.

We all look different—and that’s okay! It’s okay to:

  • Be curvy or fat.
  • Have acne, cellulite, or body and face hair.
  • Have a different hair colour or style.
  • Wear makeup or not wear makeup.
  • Choose whatever clothes make you happy.
  • Use a wheelchair or some other mobility aid to move around.
  • Have a different body shape.
  • Have scars.
  • Look however you look.

Focus on what your body helps you to do. It lets you experience the world, hang out with friends, and do fun things. That is more important than what you look like or how much you weigh.

On social media, unfollow anyone who makes you feel bad about yourself. If seeing certain actors, models or influencers with their “perfect bodies” makes you feel like you aren’t good enough, unfollow them.

Follow all different kinds of people on social media. Include people who are:

  • Plus-size
  • Disabled
  • Queer, transgender and non-binary
  • From different cultures
  • Not famous or rich.

Try affirmations. Affirmations are kind, positive things that you say about yourself. They can change the way you think and make you feel better. You could say:

  • My body is perfect.
  • I am grateful for what my body allows me to do.
  • I am more than what I look like.
  • I am ordinary: flawed and beautiful.

Make a list of the things you like about your body. It doesn’t have to be about how you look. It can also include things you can do with your body, like singing, dancing, writing, cooking, making art or having orgasms.

Do things that make you feel good. Spend time doing hobbies you enjoy. Hang out with friends. Learn to look after yourself, the way you would look after a friend.

Seek help. Talk to a GP or counsellor if you continue to feel bad or if you think you have an eating disorder. Learn about the different types of counselling on the Neve page Counselling and therapy (internal link). You can also join support groups and online forums.

Do the mirror love activity. You can learn about it on the website Our Site (external link). Our Site is made by the same people who made this website, Neve.

You are not alone. There is always hope. Remember: we judge ourselves harder than we judge anyone else. Be kind to yourself. You are more than what you look like. We can spend our whole lives punishing ourselves for not looking like people on TV — but being ourselves is the best thing we can do. 

The Butterfly Foundation website (external link) has support for eating disorders and body image issues. You can get information and advice, find professional help, and talk to a counsellor now by calling 1800 33 4673. 

You can also find help in the Neve section on Support (internal link).

1800 RESPECT

If you experience violence or abuse you can contact 1800 RESPECT for support and counselling.
Call 1800 737 732 or go to the 1800 RESPECT website to chat with someone online (external link).

‍To contact 1800RESPECT via SMS, text ‘HELLO’ or any greeting to 0458 737 732 to start the conversation.

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Body image and confidence

Body image is how you see your body and your thoughts and feelings about it. This page describes some of the ways people in our community feel bad about their bodies. We talk about disabled bodies, eating disorders and other things that affect how we see ourselves. We explain how to love and accept your body. Please read with care if any of these topics makes you feel upset.

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